Just thinking about the best friends construct! Because it's not actually a super meaningful one, but this is the price of people making off hand jokes sometimes, I rapidly overthink them. >:D
I usually just classify people as different types! I had a tabletop BFF, college BFF, a furry bff.. and then I have a couple of people that I'm just incredibly fond of. We may not be close, but like, with C -
- I've read her stuff since I was fourteen, then when I was eighteen, she started following me back. And she was single-handedly the nicest fucking person I knew from 18-21, consistently, without fail, and she was intensely supportive. And it wasn't personal! I was just a sad kid on her periphery that was having a rough time, and she liked me, so she did things that took very little energy on her part to do, and that it would've been cruel NOT to do.
So she's obvs not my Best Friend or even anything more than a casual acquaintance, but I'm deeply invested in her well being to an extent that I think people would find unexpected. She is less 'bff' and more 'beloved aunt', and I am 99% I'm just 'neighborhood child that she is proud of' in contrast, but I'd still get very annoyed if anyone said anything bad about her, you know?
But yeah! There's a couple of people I guess I would classify just as, like, generic best friends: some IRL, some online, but.. I know some people absolutely do count me as their best friend, whereas my investment in them is not on the same level. That's fine, I'm not a dick about it. But it's weird to think that people I DO assume value me to the same extent that I value them may actually not?
Not weird in a bad way, really, because.. that's life! I value a whole load of people more, and unequal investments are just a thing that happens in socialisation. I'm just being nosy again, honestly, and craving the deep "LET'S TALK ABOUT OUR FEELINGS AT 2AM" silly friendship bullshit today.
It's nostalgic, haha, and going through all the RP setup lately has put me firmly back to vaguely craving that.
.. not with some of them, though, pffff. If I never have navigate around the question of if I'm too affectionate with my friends, because they have a significant other, I will die happy. Like, switching up the way I act in front of their S/Os would be the ACTUAL weird part, I am 99% sure! And people get so suspicious if you key down any overt shows of affection just because they have a partner now, because 'did you only like me because you were trying to get in my pants??' Trying to be pre-emptively considerate never, ever works, basically.